My daughter is 14 years old, if I leave her she would stay on facebook, instagram, and internet games the whole day. Whenever I tell her: “Make something productive in your life.” She says: “Thx Mom”.
Am I working too much on this passion problem?
She is social; she has good friends, got good marks, and always seems satisfied in her life. But I really believe that she must have a beloved hobby. I tried to register her in many things drawing, music and scout every time she loses interest after one week or two weeks maximum. I know it’s wrong to compare her to her sister but see her sister filling her empty time with lots of drawings and feels so happy by producing things makes me feel that I must do something to her specially that she is a teenager with no hobby is not really beneficial to her and sometimes it's dangerous.
Any way to help?
Having no hobby is for sure not dangerous, so stay calm.
ReplyDeletei think at first you must stop using of internet at home so that your daughter will search for different things that is beneficial, and not to waste her time on Facebook.. maybe you can get her an interesting short stories then she can read and benefit in many ways. Also i think you have to ignore her when she uses the internet, and make her feel that you don't care, but show her that there are better ways to have fun which is beneficial and interesting..
also you have to be patient, and make her your helper at home in a way to prevent her from wasting time on games or Facebook, so you have to deal with her in a professional way, and not to treat her as small child...
If she loves social media, maybe she can still use it but in a productive way like writing for example. I know people who published books starting with publishing parts of it (sometimes just few sentences) on facebook. maybe!
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion what your daughter is doing is normal with respect to her age and because she is social, has good friends and got good marks as you said then internet or Face book is not effecting her negatively, so leave her and she will with time have a beloved hobby that will benefit her in life.
ReplyDeleteThis is normal for a girl at her age in this fast-growing world where the main focus is on social media. If she stays on facebook all the time, it doesn't mean she doesn't have a hobby. Maybe she needs someone to motivate her, or teach her how she can use social media to do something she loves. For example, my cousin loves to read. She always finds articles on facebook, reads them, comments on them, and shares them for other people to read. In other words, you should make her aware about how to benefit from the things she is witnessing on social media and actually discover what her hobby is.
ReplyDeleteOur role is to follow up our children's actions to direct them towards good but we have to leave them to make their choices because too much complaining and tension affect them negatively. So it's normal at her age to be merged under the fast-growing social area, because they are attractive and motivates teenagers to share, create and exchange information. it's a new world for them full of innovations and creativity. I'm sure she acquires your thoughts and directions but she needs time to discover herself. Time heals almost everything probably all you need is time.
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